Derailment

I love that word, derailment. It’s descriptive and gets the point across. Typically we think of trains, but as individuals, we too can become derailed by all sorts of people or situations around us. If we can get past the bad or good about it all, we might actually glean something from the experience. But that’s the trouble with it, we get stuck in judgment and forget to feel. Our mind takes over, and it’s difficult to bring ourselves back to the feeling of it all. Boys are trained differently from girls to suppress their emotions. Girls are never allowed to express the emotions they feel unless that expression suits another’s comfort level. So, control is everywhere. It seems unacceptable for any of us to live our own lives on our own terms. Is it any wonder that when we can’t take it anymore, it feels like a train derailment?

Maybe we should derail more often. It certainly would keep things interesting..not to mention, honest. We’re told to deal in facts. Just the facts, ma’am. Keep the emotion out of it. But why should we? Isn’t that the problem in a nutshell? If we always keep our emotions in check, the gravity of the situation isn’t fully realized. You know, by the other guy. Of course we can’t all go around derailing everywhere we go, but maybe we should now and then. At least for honesty’s sake.

Honesty is a tricky thing, though. Everyone is guarded to a degree, and there’s nothing wrong with that. We each need a certain level of privacy, and it stands to reason that individual differences apply there as well. But we must balance that privacy with a willingness to share how we feel about what’s happening around as well as to us, lest we become willing victims in our lives. Lots and lots of ego-based passive aggression arises from this imbalance which is really difficult to change because it’s too self-serving. It’s a way of feeling better about yourself not only at the expense of another, but more importantly at the expense of the truth. However, it’s counterproductive, and only the uncomfortable status quo is preserved.

For those of us who are highly sensitive or empathic in how we experience the world around us, preserving this balance is key to our survival. Remaining in alignment with our Source Energy means that we MUST remain the observer in all situations to prevent becoming stuck in endless drama which is completely draining. It’s as if full engagement or focus in the physical world zaps all our energy. Alignment, on the other hand, replenishes and sustains that energy, so it makes sense to stay there whenever possible. Besides, it’s calmer. And if you can remain so, you don’t have to listen to people telling you to stop overreacting about everything. That you’re too emotional. All of which is THEIR problem in the first place, so there’s that. And if they continue to judge you, it’s none of your business anyway. It’s judgment. It’s not a reflection of Source, so it’s not real anyway.

Living cooperatively with others doesn’t mean you give up who you are. It also doesn’t mean you expect others to do that either. And yet, that’s exactly what so many of us do. We get married and expect the other person to change to suit us. And then when they don’t, if we’re smart about it, we realize that the problem is ours and ours alone. We have to allow for individual differences..it’s what makes the world an interesting place. Differences aren’t necessarily bad..they just are. If they align with Source, then appreciate them as another expression of Source in physical form. If not, stay in alignment, and don’t judge the other person. If safety is an issue, ensure that you’re safe, but otherwise, drop resistance and refrain from judgment. It’s not your stuff anyway.

Derailment as a communication strategy is, therefore, probably not the best way to engage in the world. Alignment helps us make a better choice. A Course in Miracles instructs us to do just that. Isn’t that what we’re here to do anyway? Make endless better choices? Isn’t that what an extension of Source does?

We say, Blessed Be for a reason. We are blessed in infinite Source Energy. In Perfect Love and Perfect Trust. Always. From the beginning that has no beginning and to the end that has no end. Here in the physical body along side the greater nonphysical aspect of our One Self, we bless all we encounter, whether we realize it or not. Doing it with direct intention, however, creates the miraculous clarity that is our Awakening.

~Blessed Be!